The topic of boundaries has been something I’ve been thinking about a lot lately. I’ve looked back at all the times when I didn’t stand my ground, did something out of obligation or allowed someone to treat me in a way that was not respectful of my value and worth. One thing is clear – when I was not upfront and honest about my boundaries, I felt bad, and gave up my power.
When we are out of integrity with how we behave and how we allow people to treat us, we breach our alignment. It is in this space where resentment, anger and even the chipping away of self-esteem occurs.
It’s important to check in with yourself and how you feel. Whether it’s in a friendship, a business relationship, or a romantic one, ask if you are being honest and in integrity with yourself. It’s not necessarily that people are ill-intended, but if you don’t know your worth and state your boundaries, then they will never know, and continue pushing/taking without any idea that they are hurting you.
We can justify and rationalize away anything, and that gut feeling that sometimes is a mere whisper can be easily silenced by fear. The more you ignore that gut feeling, the more you minimize your intuition. We’re often afraid that if we speak our truth, demand respect, or draw a line, that the other person will like us less, reject us, punish us or judge us. But really, the good ones will only gain respect for you, and the bad ones will filter out. Remember, there’s an abundance of amazing humans who will value you, respect you and love you – make room for these people.