“We’ve been casually dating for eight months. He’s super sweet and last weekend he cooked me the most romantic dinner. But he’s still figuring…
Along the journey, you will feel like quitting, you will feel disenfranchised, you will feel uncomfortable, you will feel uncertain, and you will feel all the shitty things that come along with creating excellence.
Sometimes the most valuable, life changing lessons and opportunities for growth come disguised in the ugliest of packages.
A lot of men only saw me for beauty and did not value my personality or the depth behind me as a human being. Such men are attracted to the social stigma that beauty is power.
One day you will meet someone, and he will love everything about you that you were so sure was unlovable.
The more you wait the more special it is and the more willing he will likely be willing to work harder to win you over.
This business of being human will break our fucking hearts. It’s messy and complicated and oh-so-terribly sad at times.
When the excitement fades, we discover nobody ever prepared us for the mundane. We don’t believe in the beauty of predictability because we’re too blinded by the thrill of adventure.
In between “Everything happens for a reason” and “Be fearless” lies real life, which is not perfect, Valencia filtered and Facetuned flawless.
Do you know the difference between dating a European man versus an American man? If not, read up!
If you are not getting the relationship outcomes you want, there may be one thing that’s getting in your way of happily ever after….
Don’t ever forget your worth. The moment you accept less than your worth, you will get less. The moment you tolerate disrespect and disregard, you set precedent.
“There’s a lot of people you can love. There’s not that many people you can build a life with.” Key observations from relationship therapist, Esther Perel.
The beginning of love stories do not start when two people meet. At least, not ones of the soul-mate kind. I believe that energy never dies, it just takes different forms.
If I were to have a frank tête-à-tête with my 20 year old self, here’s what I’d tell her:
In your thirties, you stop acting, and just start being. That insecurity that so badly tries to receive approval and validation fades into a quiet confidence.
We must not give away our power, our light and not let any of the past harm the future. We must get back up each and every time, and still approach the world and relationships with hope, love and softness.
The Observer references Amy as “A relationship expert whose work is like that of a scientific Carrie Bradshaw.”