“We’ve been casually dating for eight months. He’s super sweet and last weekend he cooked me the most romantic dinner. But he’s still figuring…
Along the journey, you will feel like quitting, you will feel disenfranchised, you will feel uncomfortable, you will feel uncertain, and you will feel all the shitty things that come along with creating excellence.
Sometimes the most valuable, life changing lessons and opportunities for growth come disguised in the ugliest of packages.
A lot of men only saw me for beauty and did not value my personality or the depth behind me as a human being. Such men are attracted to the social stigma that beauty is power.
One day you will meet someone, and he will love everything about you that you were so sure was unlovable.
The more you wait the more special it is and the more willing he will likely be willing to work harder to win you over.
If you are not getting the relationship outcomes you want, there may be one thing that’s getting in your way of happily ever after….
Don’t ever forget your worth. The moment you accept less than your worth, you will get less. The moment you tolerate disrespect and disregard, you set precedent.
“There’s a lot of people you can love. There’s not that many people you can build a life with.” Key observations from relationship therapist, Esther Perel.
The beginning of love stories do not start when two people meet. At least, not ones of the soul-mate kind. I believe that energy never dies, it just takes different forms.
If I were to have a frank tête-à-tête with my 20 year old self, here’s what I’d tell her:
In your thirties, you stop acting, and just start being. That insecurity that so badly tries to receive approval and validation fades into a quiet confidence.
We must not give away our power, our light and not let any of the past harm the future. We must get back up each and every time, and still approach the world and relationships with hope, love and softness.
The Observer references Amy as “A relationship expert whose work is like that of a scientific Carrie Bradshaw.”
Looking at a situation as being better or worse isn’t nearly as helpful as looking at it simply as what was and what is.
Building a foundation for a potential relationship begins first and foremost with a choice. A process I coin as conscious unsingle-ing.
If you asked me a year ago if there’d ever be a day where I would be sporting LED light clothing braving dust storms in the middle of a desert – all while not having washed my hair for a week, I would have laughed.
Amy interviewed on a live segment for FOX News on the grand opening of SPiN San Francisco. FOX News – Amy Chan,…